Blog posts this time of year are filled with endless ideas about what to wear, gift ideas picks and guides on how to spend Valentines Day with loved ones. I always enjoy reading about all the creative and magical suggestions people come up with every year !
For my Valentines Day post I thought I’d share some insights on why for me it’s not so much about the one single day but rather a celebration of everyday relationships with loved ones. After all, when you’ve been married for 21 years to your high school sweetheart like me, you probably have more than a few perspectives on matters of the heart!
While hubby and I do celebrate Valentines day with gifts and a special dinner every year, I also like to consider it another opportunity where I can reflect about what has kept our marriage going for so many years.
Below are 5 Matters-of-the-Heart I believe binds a relationship
Listening – It’s not about fixing each other’s problems, it’s about being there to listen with understanding. Paying attention to one another’s feelings and being empathetic.
Respect – After a few months or years into to a relationship, respect can start a slowly diminish as we get more comfortable in our own skin and our guards and filters start coming down. So always remember to take care of each other through action words and our behaviours towards one another
Acceptance – Recognize while we may be very compatible (that’s why we’re together afterall!) we are also different individuals. Unconditionally accept each other’s habits, behaviours and flaws. Communicate things that are bothersome and be open to feedback while keeping in mind not to sweat the small stuff.
Appreciation – Remind ourselves and tell each other how lucky and valuable we are. Expressions of appreciation and thankfulness will be sure to bring happiness and longevity to the relationship.
Thoughtfulness – Anticipate the needs of one another. Know preferences and opinions and ask ourselves what we can do to accommodate and incorporate them into everyday we spend together. Be there and uplift each other.
These are just a few of my favourite heart-felt attributes in my relationship and you may have a few other ones dear to your hearts. No matter what stage your relationship is at, I encourage you to reflect on what matters to you and your loved ones. Take the time to share them with each other perhaps while you celebrate and even on the days and moments beyond Valentines Day. Most importantly carry them out wherever your journey together takes the both of you!